YOU ARE THE MASTER BUILDER!!!

If you were an architect/civil engineer and you had to design and build a very tall building. You would have to take into account how many people and/or things that it could accomodate. You would have to make it able to withstand the elements and any external dangers. If this building were destroyed by a hurricane or some other natural disaster, it is your job to assess the damage and figure out how to rebuild it. This time you have to make it better than before; stronger on the outside, but still able to be accomodating on the inside.

This building represents your heart. Only YOU have the power and the knowledge to rebuild it . Only YOU know what it's made of and how it works. Make it strong but still open enough to accomodate someone other than yourself.

THE KEY

A woman should look at a man like she does a meal. You don't want too much of any ONE thing. You need a well balanced meal in order to nurish yourself.

A woman typically needs a man that is affectionate, caring, kind, considerate, loving, intelligent, funny, creative, etc, etc. BUT she also needs a confident, self-assured, sometimes aggressive, got your back, decision maker, protector, etc. as well.

The KEY is THIS: It's not just enough for a man to possess these qualities, he has to take the time to learn his woman well enough to know which of these she needs and WHEN.

RECOGNIZE GAME!!!

This is an excersise I came up with to illustrate how we let things get by us in order to get what we THINK that we want.

1. Put your hand in front of your face and spread your fingers.

2. Close one eye and look between two of the fingers and focus on an object in the room.

What you will soon notice is that the fingers get blurry and the object becomes clearer to you. This is how most of us approach relationships. We focus on what we want and the BS that is right in front of our faces becomes blurry. It never went anywhere it was always in clear view.

DIVERSIFY YOUR SOCIAL PORTFOLIO!!

When you invest your money they always say DIVERSIFY. Don't put all of your money in one place so that if you lose money in one area the other areas will still produce for you.

In your life why would you want to always do the same things, go to the same places ALL the time every time. Experiencing NEW things is essential for your growth. Some things may not work for you but if you branch out enough, something will work for you. All you have to do is make an attempt.

For example:

1. TGIFridays, Olive Garden, and Applebee's are not the only restaurants in your city.

2. All plays don't have an all black cast.

3. Watching a DVD on the couch should not be your 365 day a year routine. (LADIES: if this is ALL that your man has to offer you....RUN!!!)

4. If you're broke, try www.google.com there are hundreds of things on the web that you can find to do at a minimal cost.

and the list goes on.......

DESTINATION ADDICTION

Destination Addiction is defined as: Living for the future at the expense of the here and now. People who have this addiction tend to say things like the following:

1. "If I had a better job, then I'd be happy" - If abetter job didn't come would you be miserable for the rest of your life or would you be thanful for what you have NOW and work towards making things better.

2. "If I found a man with these certain qualities, then everything will be perfect" - When you find this man, he won't be perfect and you will make new rules over and over again in search for perfection.

3. "Once I make more money and move into a bigger house, then I'll get married" - As if the marriage is dependant on the house.

The "DESTINATION" that most of us seek simply doesn't exist and when we get there we will alway want more.