The only way to minimize being PLAYED!!

I'm writing this blog because I hear so many people say things like the following"

1. "I know all the game out there and nobody is gonna play me"

2. "I'm tired of getting played by men and I don't know what I'm doing wrong"

These are two statements that drive me crazy when I hear it from women and I share this with you because I've been the good guy and the bad guy at different points in my life. So this isn't about what I've heard, it's about what I lived.

Players are only good if you showcase your weakness. I'm no going to get into what those weaknesses normally are in this post, but generally you have to give them nothing to latch onto. One who says they know all the game out there is a fool. If that person exists on this planet, I would love to meet them. GAME is created daily and as often as websites are created. If I asked you to do research on how many websites are created every day, you would be overwhelmed by the number. You wouldn't be able to keep up with it. The same applies to game. You can't control how it comes to you because it has so many different varieties and flavors. The only thing that you can control is YOU because to be able to prepare for the limitless game out there is futile.

You can only minimize being played by maximizing what you will and will not deal with. Learn yourself inside and out. Know what you need to add to your happiness. Requirement number one is to be happy BEFORE you date him. So if something does go wrong, your happiness is still in tact.

The goal of any player is to be able to control the situation. If you take over the control, he/she has no power. When you relax your standards, you relinquish your control. The enemy of any player is WORK. If I have to work really hard to get you, I lose out on time that I can be dealing with something new. Whatever your fear of being played for..whether its your body, your money, your time, etc. You have to make that your first defense. Never make it easy for him/her to attain that initially. A person worth their salt and is really interested in you will stick around and work for what they get.

Is this foolproof....NO. Because the most powerful player in the world is one that has mastered the art of faking sincerity. It will, however, allow you to make wiser choices in the future. The key is to always be about making forward progress.